Take care of yourself FIRST

Solo parenting can be exhausting particularly if the other parent isn't involved. Death of a partner or an absentee ex-partner puts all the responsibility on your shoulders.

Its vital you take care of yourself first. It may sound selfish but its really very smart. Look at it this way: If you breakdown the family breaks down. Think of single parenting as running a marathon. You must take care of your mind, body and soul to pass the finish line. Below are some suggestions for self-care:

• Eat well, take vitamins and exercise - Keeping your body healthy will increase your stamina and bolster your immune system.
  
  
• Set appropriate boundaries with your children - Its healthy for children to know that you sometimes need private, quiet time. For instance, after the children go to be make your bedroom off limits until morning.
  
  
• Seek support - Talking to a neutral third party is a good way of working through any unresolved feelings that may still be eating at you. Seek out supportive friends where you can talk about your feelings.
  
  
• Journal your feelings - Writing your emotions down is a good way to let them out. Sarah Ban Breathnach has a wonderful idea of gratitude journals. You write 5 things each day that you are grateful for. A wonderful way to focus on what you have rather than what you don't have.
  
  
• Get respite care - We all need breaks from the kids and work. Make it a priority to have dates with yourself, doing what you like to do. Think of taking time for yourself as recharging your batteries.