Reminder for Parents

• Ask your own parents (the grandparents) how they would like to be involved with your children.
  
  
• Be willing to talk things over.
  
  
• When you get advice, as you will, don’t automatically reject it. Grandparents have had a lot of experience of the world. Think it over and then decide what you will do. If you decide not to take their advice, explain why.
  
  
• Remember that children can adjust to different ways of doing things if you have different rules at your house from the grandparents’ house. It is one of the ways they learn about the world. If you think the rules at grandparents’ house are
  too strict and are making your children unhappy, or they are not safe, you will need to explain to the grandparents why you feel that way. Remember that a bit of leeway (or spoiling) by grandparents won’t hurt your children or damage their relationship with you.
  
  
• Some grandparents tire easily and managing morethan one pre school child for more than a shorttime may be too much.